Dear Dr. Sadie,
I am a single, successful woman in my mid-30s. I have not been lucky in love. I was engaged once, but I found out that he wasn't a very good person, thankfully before we said our "I dos." I've had a string of boyfriends, but none has been a "keeper."
I really want to be a mother, and I have a support network around me so that I can do this on my own. The problem is finding a father. I have a wonderful best friend, who is married to a wonderful woman. They have 4 kids of their own, and I think he'd be a great donor. I'm afraid of asking him, for fear of what it might do to their marriage and our relationship. I could also call a donor bank, but that seems so impersonal and like a big risk.
What do you think I should do?
- Mother to Be (I Hope)
You should marry another woman. Then you could both have babies at the same time. Then the babies could play together and they wouldn't be lonely. If you two women are together, I'm sure you'd have lots of babies. The kids would all play together and be very happy. You might have two babies, or three, or four or FIVE!! This way you wouldn't need to have a father, the babies would have two mommies. That sounds nice to me.
Friday, May 31, 2013
Monday, May 27, 2013
A Penny Saved
Dear Dr. Sadie,
I have a complicated problem. About 5 years ago, my wife and I bought a house from a family that didn't need it anymore. They had lived in the house for 5 generations, and they were sad to sell it. The patriarch was being moved into a nursing home, and all of his children were grown and living in other towns. They couldn't afford to keep it. Unfortunately, they were very obnoxious during the sale - making all sorts of demands and changing their minds several times. It was horrible, but we were happy to buy the house, and we love it. We have not heard from them since the sale.
Last week I was digging in the garden, and I found an old tin box. I opened it up, and I found the patriarch's coin collection from when he was a child. His name was on the box, and it contained several coins that were probably a little valuable when he put the box there, sometime in the 1920s or 1930s. We had the collection appraised, and it's worth about $15,000 to $25,000. We could use the money, and we're sure the patriarch doesn't remember putting the box in the garden (he has memory issues).
So what do we do, Dr. Sadie? Do we give the collection to the family, even though they are horrible, nasty people who tried to squeeze every penny from us during the sale? Do we keep the collection for our children? Do we sell it and use the proceeds for our own purposes? Do we donate the money to Alzheimer's research?
Please help.
- In a Pickle
I think you should put the house on sale and use the money for a big birthday party. Then you can live in a different house. You should buy a white house.
Since you love this house, though, I don't think you should sell it. You should sell the coin collection and give the money back to that man. He buried it, and it belongs to him.
This is a wonderful chance for you to see the true meaning of being a person. You should be nice, even though he wasn't nice to you.
I have a complicated problem. About 5 years ago, my wife and I bought a house from a family that didn't need it anymore. They had lived in the house for 5 generations, and they were sad to sell it. The patriarch was being moved into a nursing home, and all of his children were grown and living in other towns. They couldn't afford to keep it. Unfortunately, they were very obnoxious during the sale - making all sorts of demands and changing their minds several times. It was horrible, but we were happy to buy the house, and we love it. We have not heard from them since the sale.
Last week I was digging in the garden, and I found an old tin box. I opened it up, and I found the patriarch's coin collection from when he was a child. His name was on the box, and it contained several coins that were probably a little valuable when he put the box there, sometime in the 1920s or 1930s. We had the collection appraised, and it's worth about $15,000 to $25,000. We could use the money, and we're sure the patriarch doesn't remember putting the box in the garden (he has memory issues).
So what do we do, Dr. Sadie? Do we give the collection to the family, even though they are horrible, nasty people who tried to squeeze every penny from us during the sale? Do we keep the collection for our children? Do we sell it and use the proceeds for our own purposes? Do we donate the money to Alzheimer's research?
Please help.
- In a Pickle
I think you should put the house on sale and use the money for a big birthday party. Then you can live in a different house. You should buy a white house.
Since you love this house, though, I don't think you should sell it. You should sell the coin collection and give the money back to that man. He buried it, and it belongs to him.
This is a wonderful chance for you to see the true meaning of being a person. You should be nice, even though he wasn't nice to you.
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
What a Turkey!
Dear Dr. Sadie,
Please help me. I'm livid.
It's always been a dream of mine to see Constantinople, but I've never had the money. I've been saving my pennies for a very long time. My husband and I have never made much money, but we've been frugal, and we were able to put the kids through college, save enough for retirement, and pay off our debt completely. Through it all, and entirely through my efforts I managed to save enough money for my husband and I to spend a month in Istanbul, seeing all the sights and staying in nice places.
Yesterday my husband surprised me for my birthday with a brand new convertible. I have never wanted one (but he always has). When I asked him where he got the money he said, "I raided that dumb vacation fund. It's not like we were ever going anyway."
I am speechless. What should I do?
- No Turkey for Me, Thanks
You should make your own store with money in it (like a bank), then you could get your own money from the bank and then you could take all of the money out of the bank and then you can use it to go on your trip.
You should also find a new husband. You can look for a new husband when you go to Constantinople. I bet there's a good husband there.
Another way you can make money is for you to find people who have ducks. If the ducks have a baby, and they need someone to take care of it, they might pay you to raise the baby duck for them.
Please help me. I'm livid.
It's always been a dream of mine to see Constantinople, but I've never had the money. I've been saving my pennies for a very long time. My husband and I have never made much money, but we've been frugal, and we were able to put the kids through college, save enough for retirement, and pay off our debt completely. Through it all, and entirely through my efforts I managed to save enough money for my husband and I to spend a month in Istanbul, seeing all the sights and staying in nice places.
Yesterday my husband surprised me for my birthday with a brand new convertible. I have never wanted one (but he always has). When I asked him where he got the money he said, "I raided that dumb vacation fund. It's not like we were ever going anyway."
I am speechless. What should I do?
- No Turkey for Me, Thanks
You should make your own store with money in it (like a bank), then you could get your own money from the bank and then you could take all of the money out of the bank and then you can use it to go on your trip.
You should also find a new husband. You can look for a new husband when you go to Constantinople. I bet there's a good husband there.
Another way you can make money is for you to find people who have ducks. If the ducks have a baby, and they need someone to take care of it, they might pay you to raise the baby duck for them.
Friday, May 17, 2013
Headed for the Altar on the Bus from Speed
Dear Dr. Sadie,
My son is engaged to a woman that we have known for a year. When we met, she presented as a lovely, young woman, full of promise and grace. When they announced their engagement 3 months ago, we were ecstatic to welcome her into our family.
Since that time, she has gained 50 pounds, and she refuses to go out of the house. She quit her job and expects our son to support her fully. He does everything around the house. Last month, she moved them across the country, because she likes the climate better. Our son had to find a job (one that doesn't pay nearly as well and is not in an industry with any growth or opportunity for advancement). She also refuses to let him visit us or allow us to come visit them.
The wedding is in 3 months, and we are very scared. What should we do?
- Outraged and Disowned
You should find someone else for him to marry - someone that he doesn't know. He can use this to get to know other people. He should meet original people who are in the same state that you are in. That would be better for everyone.
That's all you should do - nothing else. You should have some watermelon. It's yummy. When you're done eating it, you can swim in the juice.
My son is engaged to a woman that we have known for a year. When we met, she presented as a lovely, young woman, full of promise and grace. When they announced their engagement 3 months ago, we were ecstatic to welcome her into our family.
Since that time, she has gained 50 pounds, and she refuses to go out of the house. She quit her job and expects our son to support her fully. He does everything around the house. Last month, she moved them across the country, because she likes the climate better. Our son had to find a job (one that doesn't pay nearly as well and is not in an industry with any growth or opportunity for advancement). She also refuses to let him visit us or allow us to come visit them.
The wedding is in 3 months, and we are very scared. What should we do?
- Outraged and Disowned
You should find someone else for him to marry - someone that he doesn't know. He can use this to get to know other people. He should meet original people who are in the same state that you are in. That would be better for everyone.
That's all you should do - nothing else. You should have some watermelon. It's yummy. When you're done eating it, you can swim in the juice.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Dr Sadie Takes on Mothers' Day
Dear Dr. Sadie,
My mother is the most kind, generous and gentle woman I know. She has supported me unconditionally for my entire life. She truly is my hero. How can I honor her appropriately on Mothers' Day?
- Delighted Daughter
You can make her a plant at school. It should be a violet. You should also make her a strawberry shortcake. You should also get her a present. It will be a new ring. The ring will be be a diamond - green diamond. It shouldn't be too fancy. It will be a ring for wearing all the time. She could also wear it to a fancy ball.
You could also make her a ring. You could study rings for a while, then make a ring for her.
It's important to get your mother nice things on Mothers' Day. I didn't get anything for Mama this year. I MADE something for her. She's very special, and I made her a special plant at school.
My mother is the most kind, generous and gentle woman I know. She has supported me unconditionally for my entire life. She truly is my hero. How can I honor her appropriately on Mothers' Day?
- Delighted Daughter
You can make her a plant at school. It should be a violet. You should also make her a strawberry shortcake. You should also get her a present. It will be a new ring. The ring will be be a diamond - green diamond. It shouldn't be too fancy. It will be a ring for wearing all the time. She could also wear it to a fancy ball.
You could also make her a ring. You could study rings for a while, then make a ring for her.
It's important to get your mother nice things on Mothers' Day. I didn't get anything for Mama this year. I MADE something for her. She's very special, and I made her a special plant at school.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Warm Weather Fashions
Dear Dr. Sadie,
Well, it has happened again. I failed to keep my New Year's Resolution, and I find myself going into the warm weather with a little more "insulation" than I want or need. I'd like to look good in the summertime, though. What should I wear this season so that I am comfortable and look good?
- Fashion First
You should wear beautiful dresses. It should have beautiful stuff on it. You should also do beautiful dances like this [Dr. Sadie mimes playing the castanets above her head]. You can also wear pretty headbands. It should have feathers and sequins on it. You should wear bows in the desert or you can wear leaves.
Well, it has happened again. I failed to keep my New Year's Resolution, and I find myself going into the warm weather with a little more "insulation" than I want or need. I'd like to look good in the summertime, though. What should I wear this season so that I am comfortable and look good?
- Fashion First
You should wear beautiful dresses. It should have beautiful stuff on it. You should also do beautiful dances like this [Dr. Sadie mimes playing the castanets above her head]. You can also wear pretty headbands. It should have feathers and sequins on it. You should wear bows in the desert or you can wear leaves.
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